One of the more grievous aspects of life is having to say goodbye to a loved one or client. Sometimes the loss is unexpected (due to an accident or an acute illness). In other instances, your loved one or client’s chronic condition contributes to a steady decline, resulting in his or her eventual passing. Either way losing someone you love and care for can devastate your life. It can be difficult to know what to do or how to cope. The following are four tips that may help you cope when your loved one or client is nearing the end of life:
Put your Loved One or Client’s Feelings First
Receiving a diagnosis that a disease is incurable can be difficult to process for you and your loved one or client. Emotions such as denial and anger are common responses to hearing such devastating news. It is vital that you put your loved one or client’s feeling first. Be a good listener, allowing your loved one or client to talk about what is going to happen. You do not have to have answers, listening is what is needed. Make yourself available should your loved one or client need a shoulder to cry on. What matters most is that you display empathy and do everything in your power to make things easier for him or her to cope.
Take Time to Process your Feelings
While it is important to keep your loved one or client’s feeling in the forefront of your mind, it is also essential not to forget about yourself and the way you are feeling about the situation. Take time to process the information you have been given and allow yourself to cry! Losing someone you love can be difficult, and leave you feeling powerless. Don’t be ashamed to start your grieving process and seek out comfort from those around you. There is nothing wrong with expressing your sadness. It is healthy and normal to do so. Where you might run into trouble is when you bottle up your emotions.
Make the Most of the Time you Have Together
Time is precious. It is more important than ever to get as much quality time in with your loved one or client as possible. Take advantage of time to listen, play games, read, and listen to music that your loved one or client prefers. Your commitment will be of comfort to your client or loved one.
Seek out the Best Care
A terminal diagnosis likely means that your loved one or client has a disease that will contribute to a slow decline in physical functioning. In fact, over time your loved one or client will need to seek out assistance from a hospice or palliative care provider like Three Oaks Hospice. This way, you will know your loved one or client is getting the best care provided by trained professionals, so they are able to live the rest of their life with as much dignity as possible.
Losing someone you love can be distressing. However, having strategies to cope will leave you with few regrets.